Define Cheating by David Wygant

So you’re in a relationship, and you do any of the following things:

• After getting a little tipsy in a bar, you swap spit and play some serious tonsil hockey with the hottie with whom you did a few shots

• You go to a happy ending rub ‘n tug massage parlor and, wow what am I doing, the female rubber tugs at you at you at the end of the massage.

• You go to a strip club, and the stripper grinds against you leaving a deposit on your jeans.

• You’re a woman who at a bachelorette party slowly kisses this cute guy you met that night.

• You are on vacation, and you perform oral sex but don’t have intercourse.

So where am I going with all this? What defines cheating . . . and what actions do or do not constitute cheating?

Some people think cheating only occurs if intercourse happens. Other people think cheating is when you just think about it.

Some people say just making out with someone is not cheating. Ask any man who goes to a rub ‘n tug, and he’ll tell you that he’s not cheating. He’ll say that’s not cheating . . . it’s a massage.

So today, we’re going to open up the forum and see what you guys think. What is cheating to you?
That’s the question of the day.

I want to correspond with all of you. I want to hear your thoughts on what constitutes cheating.

I once had this funny little thing that read: “It’s not cheating if you do it in another time zone.” This meant that if you live in New York City and you travel to Los Angeles, it’s 8:00 pm. Los Angeles time and 11:00 pm. New York time. So you basically have three hours to fool around before it’s 11:00 pm your time.

It’s like time travel. If you keep your watch on eastern time, then it’s like you never cheated (sort of like the five second rule – something falls on the floor and you can eat it if it hasn’t been there longer than five seconds).

Instead of the “five second rule,” this is the “three hour rule.” Other people have a different version of this rule: “It’s not cheating if you don’t speak the language.”

People cheat for all sorts of reasons. Let’s hear your definition of what cheating is, and then another day we’ll talk about why people cheat.

I don’t agree with either of the rules above. You can rationalize it any way you want, but my opinion is that the minute your lips lock with another person, you’ve cheated.

What’s your opinion on this issue . . . and don’t hold back! Looking forward to this discussion all day!

Online Misrepresentation by David Wygant

Yesterday I received
about 200 emails from people who saw an article I wrote for Yahoo! Personals, and they asked me “Why does everyone on the Internet seem to be 29 or 39 or ‘fit and trim,’ yet when I walk around I can’t find all these young, fit and trim people.”


There was a survey done a couple of years ago that said that the majority of people dating online are 39. The number one problem on the Internet is that people who are 45 say they’re 39. People who are 41 say they’re 39. Because when people search on the Internet, they tend to search in such tight age parameters that they decide to deduct a few years.

Then there’s another group of people who deduct a few pounds. They’re like a boxer in a heavyweight division, but they really want to fight a welterweight like Sugar Ray Leonard . . . so they drop a few classes. The problem is, when Sugar Ray Leonard shows up for the date, he says “I’m not fighting this person . . . You’re a heavyweight and you’re going to kick my ass!”

Not only that, every single person I talk to says they don’t look their age. What age do you look? I was on the phone the other day with a 55 year old woman who said she doesn’t look her age, but when I see her . . . I see age 55. If 50 is the new 40 and 40 is the new 30, then what is 10 . . . the new 1? And is 0 the new -10?!

In today’s society, there seem to be a run of people classifying themselves as something they’re not. People classifying themselves as “athletic and toned” don’t work out and haven’t since high school. This doesn’t qualify as “athletic and toned.”

The only people who tend to tell the truth online are the ones who describe themselves as “curvy” and “voluptuous,” because they know who they are and they don’t want to misrepresent themselves. On the other hand, it seems like the women who are 10-15 pounds over their ideal weight describe themselves as “hard bodies.”

I have no issues with people who want to better themselves and emphasize their strengths. But if you lie about your age, weight and serial number, you will get exposed when the person you meet is expecting someone different from you to show up to your first date.

Don’t forget you want to be the prize inside the box of Captain Crunch . . . and not be Captain Crunch. You also don’t want to show up on the date with someone who says they’re “athletic and toned,” when their body in truth is more like Frankenberry.

You can’t convince someone to like you based upon what you want to look like or the age you want to be. Bottom line: If you desire deeper connections with people, you need to immediately do these five things to your online profile:

1) List your real age.
2) Post current pictures that show what you really look like (whether you’re bald, chunky, overweight, underweight, or whatever else . . . it’s who you are!)
3) Check off the right body type. They will find out . . . so why lie?
4) Increase the age range of the people you’re searching for by two years. You may meet a few people out of your age range, but . . . you never know what will happen!
5) Write a good profile so people get a sense of who you are of the entire package (not just the physical side of you).

As my lawyer says, misrepresentation without representation will lead to trouble. And if you’re looking for a good lawyer, I know of a few. If you’re looking for a good online profile, I know the man who can write you one.

One last thing .. . embrace who you are. Everybody has plenty of people who are attracted to the exact person they are. You don’t have to be a certain type. There are plenty of people looking for your type.

Meeting David Wygant in person by Johnny Wolf

I’ve met a lot of so called “ladies men” in person. Some are what we call naturals, which are men that are…well, naturally good with women. They don’t know why what they do works, but they somehow caught on at an early age and just stuck to it. Then there are the new wave of trained ladies men, called Pick Up Artists. Think…they dork in high school that finally figured out there is a “magic pill.” These guys range from creepy guys with zero social skills trying to improve themselves, to grand entertainers that are the life of the party.

Then…I met David Wygant. Not sure where I’d fit him in all this, but if I was a woman, I’d sleep with him. Naturally charismatic, tall, good looking and in amazing shape for being close to 40. And even though he consciously knows what women want, and how to “pick them up” women are okay with it. I believe that women want guys to know how to approach them, meet them, impress them, date them, and seduce them…they just want you to be good at it, and make them feel good. That being said, what ever method it takes to get a guy to be good with women is a good thing right? Well, we’ll let you decide what method fits you best. Come see David Wygant speak in person, along with 15 other world renound Pick Up Artists, Dating Coaches and Gurus at this year’s PUA Summit at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel this weekend Saturday and Sunday August 25th and 26th.

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Last night I was heading to a friend’s birthday and on the way to the bar my buddy and I stopped of at Poquito Mas on Sunset. For those of you who don’t live in LA, Poquito Mas is an awesome burrito, healthy yet still tastes authentic.

As all of you know i teach the art of connecting with women in casual places and last night was my turn to connect. I was sitting across from my friend and we needed a few napkins. So I turned around and standing right in front of the napkins was this really cute brunette.

So in this situation what can you do to speak with her? As you know, I don’t believe in routines and pick up lines. 1., they can smell a line a mile away, and 2., you need to learn how to connect with a woman so she is all excited that she met you.


So I walk over and as I am walking over I gathered information in my head: she was right in front of the napkins so this was going to be real easy. I walked over with no hesitation and said excuse me are you the napkin guarder? I smiled as I said it and she was quick with a response.

“Yes I am I am all about protecting the napkins,” she said with a smile. So now we went back and forth about the napkins and I looked around and saw that the forks were right next to the napkins so I asked her,”Are you also the protector of the forks and spoons”?

Now before I tell you what she said, I need to explain why I changed the subject. You need to move the conversation forward. You can not keep going around in circles and by doing this it shows that you are playful. I opened her with a tease and busted her about being the napkin police. Now you need to look around and find other talking points to move the conversation forward.

” I am all about the napkins, maybe next time we can talk about the forks,” she said. So she dropped her first hint about the next time. “Well see what happens,” I respond confidently. I smiled at her and walked away. Now why did I walk away? Well, I knew that I had her and she still needed to place her food order so she was not going anywhere and the power of walking away really turns them on. It shows that you are confident and it leaves them guessing and face it, we all like a bit of mystery in our lives. So I sat back down and ate some of my food and about 4 minutes later I walked back up and busted her one last time. She was waiting for her food in the wrong area.

“Hey Napkin Girl…I know your job is to guard the napkins but you are standing in the wrong area!”

I smiled and she laughed and we kept chatting about food and stuff. She then got her food and I peeked into her bag to see what she had (I did this to find out if she had 2 meals in there, always need to find out if she is single without asking). Never ask a woman if she has a boyfriend. If she is on the fence she will always make up one so you don’t ask her out. When you ask a woman out assume that she is single.

So what do you do in this situation, up until this point you have totally intrigued her and had some fun with her.

This is what I call a foundation so you can ask her out and she is intrigued by you. Most men will try a routine on a woman and even if they get the number the woman will leave feeling all confused. Why would she be confused with a routine? Well, once she processes what happened she will start to have a weird feeling about the whole thing.

What I teach is to be natural, when you are natural a woman will feel all comfortable and she will be more intrigued by you and your boldness and confidence.

So how do you close her in this situation. Here are a 3 ways to do that.

1. You grab a few forks and tell her to grab a few more napkins. She will do as you tell her because up to this point it has been all about fun. Now look at her and say: “Perfect we now have all the napkins and forks for the next time when we grab some burritos. What’s your number?”

2. Or you can just say: “Nice meeting you tonight have a great dinner.” And as she is about to leave, you let her take the first few steps and then you say: “Hey Courtney, wait….give me your number - we need to grab some napkins together real soon.” This approach will bring her back to the original fun opener and the first close will make her anticipate the next meeting.

3. One last thing….wait about an hour and text her this: How was your nachos…did you have enough napkins:) Add your name so she knows who you are and you will make her smile again.

We will talk more about why the follow up text is so important another day.

‘Till then.

DW