I wrote this blog while hanging out in New York City a few weeks ago. It was the last day of the recent bootcamp.

The last day of the bootcamp is always comprised of all of the clients going out together in the stores and working on everything they’ve learned over the weekend. It’s always a really great day.

I was with Justin, who is from Japan, and we were talking about the experience that a lot of guys have when they move to the United States. They may have been here a few years, and they know the language well, but they aren’t entirely confident in speaking it yet.

The frustrating thing is that when they talk to people, they can hear them and understand what they are saying, but the immediate response in their head is in their first language. (more…)

This blog is an open letter to all of you space invaders out there. You know who you are … or do you?

No, I’m not talking to those of you with an affinity for handling joysticks and playing early 80’s video games with poor graphics and creatures making funny “gobbling” noises as they ate things. This open letter has nothing to do with video games. I’m also not talking rodents or anything else that invades your living space. I’m not even talking about clutter on your desk that gets in your way.

The space invaders I’m talking about here are ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends (we’ll just collectively call them “ex’s” here). This open letter is directed to all of you ex’s out there who are space invaders tormenting your ex’s. (more…)

Do you really understand what generosity is?

In my ten years of coaching men – and living in both Los Angeles and New York – I’ve met a lot of “generous” people. I put that in quotations because these are really people who just thought that they were being generous.

I’ve met a lot of men that have bought women things; they’ve taken them on trips and bought them homes. I always disagreed with what they did, because it was clear to me that they weren’t being generous with their heart – they were being generous with their money so they could get laid.
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Something really funny happened today that I think you’re going to love hearing about.

I don’t know what you all think of MySpace or Facebook, but in my opinion, social networking sites are borderline weird – especially if you’re like me and have dated somebody who basically lived for them.

Earlier this year, I was actually dating a Facebook/MySpace junkie. So today, Rey was on the computer when he started laughing really loudly. When I asked him what was up, he told me that I had been removed from her friend list.

I was removed from both her MySpace and Facebook friend lists. Is this elementary school? Have I been banned from the tree house? Have I been eliminated? (more…)

I had something interesting come up while I was just talking to a client. Actually, he’s a future client and a really good guy. His name is Tony, and I really want to dedicate this blog to him.

I’m dedicating this blog to Tony because I think we’re at the same point in our lives. Even though we are not particularly close in age (he’s 39 years old and I’m 46 years old), I believe he and I are at the same point in our lives when it comes to the kind of connection we want to have with women. (more…)

I’m going to start out this Sunday’s blog with a confession (even though I’m not a church-goer as many of you know…)

I had every intention of getting this blog out to you on Friday - but between moving and being in constant meetings with my team brainstorming, creating and … let’s say gently critiquing each other’s ideas for the early 2009 launch of my new community site that I’m designing for my members — I don’t know if I’m coming or going half the time!

So my apologies on the tardiness of this blog, but hopefully ‘better late than never’ applies here …
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You know, one of the most common questions I get from both men and women is how they can become more attractive to members of the opposite sex. The problem is that most people who struggle with attracting the opposite sex really don’t understand what creates attraction.

So what makes someone attractive to the opposite sex? What makes someone attractive in general? Anyone who is familiar with my work knows that one of the core principles I teach is that you need to put out good energy in order to attract people.
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Today I am posting below our first womens video.

Its time we gave the women of our site the same treatment and great videos that the men get.

But first you all need to read about how ego ruins you.

Do you know what ruins the possibility of most relationships taking off?

Ego always ruins it.
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