Fashion Ideals-Plus Free Podcast For Both Men and Women
Fashion Ideals By David Wygant
What’s the ideal fashion?
There is a terminology that the pickup community (pua community) uses. As you guys know, most of the time I don’t really use the nicknames or terminologies that are being used in the pickup community because I like to just call it what it is.
But there is something the pickup community calls ‘peacocking’ – no, it’s not a guy walking around with peacock feathers trying to hook up with women – it’s about men developing a look so they can actually go out and attract women.
We have a different version of it, and it is: having good fashion.
The basics of fashion really include developing a style that is unique to you – not because you’re trying to show off to women, but because you’re trying to reflect aspects of your own personality.
First of all, it goes almost without saying, your clothes should be well fitted – if your clothes are too baggy and loose, what does that say about you? It probably says that you’re either afraid of your body – you might be slightly overweight and trying to hide that behind your clothing – or, it might say that you’re just a sloppy guy! Well-fit clothes will ALWAYS make you look better – it doesn’t matter if you’re skinny, fat, or just plain normal.
So what’s the idea behind peacocking? A lot of guys in the community will talk about how you want to stand out. Yes, standing out is good a little bit, if you’re going to bars and clubs all of the time. However, it isn’t necessary to go overboard.
You should just pick items that are unique and reflect who you are. For example, if you’re a skydiver, are there any items, or maybe a t-shirt that has a skydiving logo on it? Maybe you wear something with a cool design that represents who you are.
Your pieces of clothing should act as a way for her to know who you are. If you’re dressed like a businessman, what does that say about you? It says that you’re probably a businessman! That, in itself, can be appealing to a woman who is looking for a business-savvy guy.
It’s the same thing in terms of accessories. I personally don’t buy a lot of generic clothing; usually the way I pick my clothes is by looking around. I scout around, and while a lot of clothes are looking good, I will only pick the one that I think that most guys would not wear. For me, I like to be unique. If somebody looks at me, then hopefully they will think that I’m a unique individual, because I usually pick clothing that is very different.
So fashion is really something to show who you are, rather than something to get looks from people. It’s really about representing yourself. It’s nice to be looked at, and hopefully if you match things well and combine your tops and bottoms properly then you will look different and get looks from people. But really fashion should be about you.
Everything starts with YOU – from the way you talk, the way you present yourself – and the stronger your image is (and no, I’m not talking about your avatar!) the more likely you are to attract the kind of woman who is looking for that kind of guy.
Todays podcast deals with how your energy and attitude rubs off on everyone including your dog.
As always all podcasts are live recordings from the field of life!! This podcast is great for both Men and Women.
The lesson is for both of you!!
Enjoy and have a great Sunday.
May 11th, 2008 at 6:19 pm
I met a woman on Saturday, who is good at verbalizing what she’s looking for. Not that they didn’t have their appeal, but her clothes said something totally different. At one point I did ask her, how she would dress to express the life life she wants. I don’t think she ever thought about that before, but she did come up with one possible expression… I wonder what she’s going to be wearing the next time we get together?
May 11th, 2008 at 7:01 pm
That Cranky lady definitly had issues of her own, which explains why she would get so militant right away about the dog, but c’mon David you know that you should have Daphne on a leash when she’ll be in close contact with strangers and their dogs. You know those little L.A. Dogs just look like pork chops to her…..even though all your fans know the only thing Daphne is killin is the ladies. LOL As soon as I get the cash I’ll see you at bootcamp.
May 12th, 2008 at 2:11 am
I like the idea presented here that clothing really should reflect your style and represent your personality. Clothing for sure is a key factor because normally it’s the first thing a person notices about another person.
Now what’s funny is that in the so-called “pua community” all the guys follow the style of one leader, normally PUAs who go with some mysterious name instead of their own, and think that all it takes to attract good-looking ladies is to copy-dress their “master”. But what really happens is that their “master” only dresses like that because that actually is HIS personality and his clothing matches up with his personality. For all the rest who copy this, the result is they look like some weird clowns and all they cause is people laughing at them.
So I think it’s quite important to dress your way, and maybe even go one step further and dress the way you want to be. Everybody has personal development goals, and in my opinion if you want to get a better/different person you also have to dress the part. Otherwise you will be stuck in your “old life”.
May 12th, 2008 at 8:40 am
You also have to be aware that regardless of how you dress, there will be people that judge you, for good or for bad. It happens, it’s how people work. You have to not only dress YOU but you have to get comfortable being YOU. Only then is it successful.
May 12th, 2008 at 10:04 am
Markus
You know how important it is to have your own style.
I am all about helping guys find that but not cloning guys!!!
We had that really funny talk when we were in amsterdam about all the guys who walk around looking like clowns.
I think i have that on audio…..not sure but if i do i should post it.
May 12th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
Where’s the RSS feed for your podcasts, Mr Wygant?
May 12th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Working on that. New site coming in 2 weeks will have that