How To Create A Story-Plus Video On Approaching!!
Create Stories By David Wygant
Let’s talk about the importance of creating a story. Why are stories so important?
When you are talking to somebody, you really want to be able to relate to them. When they say something to you like, “wow, I love your dog,” you can say something like, “well, this dog is not as good as it looks…” and then you can tell a funny story about some quirky behaviors that your dog has. What this does is give her an inside view into who you are as a person.
So, how do you get better at telling a story?
There are a couple of different things that you need to do: one is that you need to practice your stories. You need to practice saying things about yourself – don’t just tell facts. A lot of guys will just tell facts when they’re trying to tell a story. Instead of saying WHY your dog is quirky and funny, you’ll basically say, “my dog does funny things with a bone” instead of talking about those things. You’re not telling anybody anything when you do that.
What you need to do is create that story. So think about this story: “my dog is so bizarre, whenever I give her a bone – I just have to tell you how funny this is – whenever I give her the bone, she KNOWS that the bone is meant for her. When I give it to her, she comes over all the time and starts chewing it in front of me; she actually chews it on my hand! She brings it to me all day, it’s almost like she continually thanks me for the same gift over and over and over again!”
What happened there is that by being animated and telling that story, you give her an insight into who you are. Not only that, but she’s also getting excited about meeting you because you’re so animated and full of life. When you just tell facts, you’re boring: “my dog likes bones. My dog likes to chew a bone in my hand” – no, create that story.
The best way to learn how to create a story is to get a Dr. Seuss book (or any children’s book) and after reading it, start creating stories based on it. People want to be entertained.
Another idea is to take an improv class. Improv classes will be really good for you. An improv class will teach you how to really get excited at certain points, how to use words to get people excited, or your body language.
Not only do you want to create a story, you want to be animated and smiling during the delivery, and look at the person in their eyes. You are talking directly to them. Stories create emotions. When you tell a good story, a woman will look at you and want to be involved in that story. She’ll picture going home with you to give your dog the bone when you’re a couple.
This is why stories are so important!
Todays video is all about the 3 keys of approaching women.
Imagine having no approach anxiety and being able to walk up to any woman and not only have a great conversation with her but really understand what she is thinking and feeling.
Not only that but doing all this without all the routines!!!
This is a powerful video that will rid you of your fears and self doubt.
May 10th, 2008 at 11:40 am
I think storytelling is so important because it shows people that you are not a static character.
When you read a book or watch a movie, you can always find one of these unforgettable characters. They are one-dimensional. They are flat. You don’t care or feel anything for them. They are just there.
That’s how women see you when they just look at you. You are just a static person in the landscape. They assume things about you just by how you look.
However, when you start telling stories, you become dynamic. Through stories, you flesh yourself out as a REAL person, a REAL character. If you think about movies and books again, who do you bond with?
You bond with the main characters because they have a story or a journey to tell. You see them going through struggles and moments of happiness. They are dynamic and alive.
That’s what stories do. They make you come alive to the other person.
May 10th, 2008 at 2:36 pm
The funny thing is that men don’t think and talk in stories, because it’s not interesting to them. Men want facts, and they want them fast. So we’re all set to getting our message across as fast as possible, because we’re used to it and all our friends do the same.
I figured out that women are different. They are all about the details. They want to get the most out of a story, want to be able to live that moment again in their mind as you are telling it. I didn’t quite realize that because my “male” mind thinks different and just doesn’t see that possibility.
But once you found that power of detail in conversations, it’s like magic. Just right now i’m on a IM chat with a woman who normally barely talks to me. She told me just one quick detail about a recent travel experience in spain, where she spent one night in an old castle. I’m just now recreating my own story about sleeping in an enchanted castle for her, and guess what, she doesn’t stop writing and is fascinated by my story. She’s like a different person now because she can talk “she talk” now with me. She probably cannot do that with many men.
So thanks David for that excellent blog post!!
greetz from Austria
Markus
May 10th, 2008 at 5:36 pm
Markus
That is a great lesson that you have embraced!!
More guys need to realize this lesson!
Have a great rest of your night!
May 10th, 2008 at 8:29 pm
I believe another element to this is being in the moment and having fun with it. This is easier said than done, especially if it’s a woman I’m interested in and am feeling motivated to “impress” her. There’s so much to talk about; so many threads in a conversation that can be picked up and followed, and these threads branch like trees. Sometimes it hard to remember, it’s not about covering a lot of ground, but rather the quality of the ground that is covered. This corresponds with thinking about myself instead of her; or put another way, “what do I have to offer”.
David would I be correct in saying you’re teaching people to listen, and then use the pauses to keep the conversation going in an interesting direction. - I think I did ok today, but I know there’s still room for improvement.