The Bucket List-Plus Free Podcast About Passion For Men and Women
The Bucket List By David Wygant
When I was in Chicago I was sitting in my hotel room and I decided to watch a movie. There were a few choices in movies: The Bucket List and No Country for Old Men.
It’s funny – I don’t know about you, but when I’m tired I always look at the length of a movie. It was an hour and 32 minutes versus two hours and seven minutes. I didn’t think I could last an hour and 32 minutes, let alone two hours and seven minutes, plus, I had my Blackberry next to me and some emails to take care of, so I didn’t really want to concentrate on a movie. I knew No Country for Old Men would be a movie I’d have to concentrate on, so I started watching The Bucket List.
I’m not the kind of person who gets really depressed – ever – but I have to tell you, about half way through that movie it really started pissing me off. I started getting depressed because I realized that most of our lives we spend working, and building a life, and then all of a sudden we can have that life taken away at any moment.
I try to teach how to embrace life every day and live life to the fullest, but it made me realize how many people waste time. They act like they have an endless supply of time, and they waste it. They sit around and think to themselves, oh, I’m only 30; I’ve got so much time.
But you don’t!
You never know when your number is up. An interesting thing that Morgan Freeman asked in the voiceover of the film is that if you could know the exact day of your death, would you want to?
I wouldn’t. I don’t want to know the end. There are so many people who, when they know that they have six months left, that’s when they start living. You’ve read so many books about people who thought they had six months left to live before death, and they were the best six months of their life.
Faced with this, you’re forced to do the things that you would normally never do. You don’t have these lifetime fears or blocks anymore. It seems like so many people out there spend so much time not focusing on their lives and not enjoying every day because they think, well, tomorrow…
There may never be another tomorrow. It’s funny because in the film they travel around the world and they do all these fun things, but I think that if it comes down to a bucket list there are things you can do every day in your own life. These things can really motivate you.
It’s a great movie to really watch and look at the important message. That film, and Defending Your Life – have you seen that?
Both of those are pretty amazing movies when it comes down to really opening up your eyes and realizing that you need to embrace your life, love your life, and live it everyday. Otherwise, you’re just going to sit around writing your bucket list. You can’t jam it all into six months.
Every day should be your bucket!
Todays podcast is all about living a rich passionate lifestyle. You need to listen to this. It will change your life and the way you look at the opposite sex.
This is for men and women!!!
May 12th, 2008 at 12:39 pm
Yeah… that seeing that movie is a game check…
… talk about a priority reorganizer…
May 12th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
I want to live a rich life. I do want to. Not in the money wise but like you David say, soul/friends/love rich.
I just miss that passion. I miss something that gives me higher motivation to do things in my life.
Movies are being already downloaded..lol
May 12th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
Brad
Its like we talked about on the hike….but some people have trouble putting it into practice.
May 12th, 2008 at 1:39 pm
Slava
I met you and i know that you will have this amazing life!!! You are learning all of this at a young age and it is really important to you,
May 12th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Another great movie to watch is.
Defending Your Life with Albert Brooks.
A must for all!!
May 12th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
David,
I met you too and can tell that you have a great life!!
Anyway.
I figured I have HUGE expectations about myself. And whenever I don’t meet those criteria I feel like absolute crap and don’t see (or just ignore) those little things that I already achieved..and of course I’m not happy, I think what I have done wrong etc…
…and from that point starts something like a desperate power of me to have better life which I want to live and love and just be happy.
Thanks for the movie, I need to be challenged and motivated
David, I would be interested in your point of view about time. How you handle that??
May 12th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Slava
Time is something that we need to embrace…….you will always have a to do list but need to really stay in the moment so you can enjoy and embrace everything
its funny when i spoke at your school and brought you on stage i knew that you werer different and ready for a great adventure in life!!
May 12th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
David,
I remember that moment like now even its been two years already!!! Union College changed my life in sooo many ways!! Looove it!!
There was a poster hanging at the door in my dorm - real Hitch, David Wygant..Ohh man, I was coming from the gym thinking what the hell is that..Lol
I have some videos somewhere from that night, I remember somebody called and you had this cat mnauuuuu melody on your cell phone. Everybody started cracking up and you just said, be different but yourself
Ohh man, you also picked my female friend on the stage and told us to strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. In my case I think it was a girl just with the bottle of watter…Ohh man, those moments…
You use word embrace almost in every video/text you have/write. Embrace embrace embrace…
How can I embrace the moment? Just stay present in the moment and be 100% sure that Im IN the moment?? Thats embracing??
When I look in the dictionaries there are too many descriptions for me
May 12th, 2008 at 2:56 pm
Slava
Think of nothing else except what is going on right now.
That is being in the moment and embracing the power of it!
Forget about any other meanings.
Have you read the power of now?
Good book on this subject.
It would be great to see the video from that night I remember it well!
May 12th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
OK David,
I went through my old pictures and vids and put this this video of you on youtube. It can be your dating video for today!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2PQRr65MI8
I like the part - just go and introduce yourself…hmm..do you play rugby?…lol
Enjoy
OK, living the moment.
Thinking about nothing else except what is going on right now is easier said than done. There is always something else crossing my mind and I in general fight with my concentration…
I found myself that its tough to concentrate and continue working on it. So embrace the moment sounds very very nice to me…
I found this book online:
Dumont, Theron Q - The Power of Concentration
Is pretty well written with tons of exercise. The author basically says in order to control your mind (=concentration) you need to control your body movements. Its very interesting.
May 12th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
wow that was funny.
brings back some memories!!!
its the power of now by eckhart tolle
that is a great book for you
May 12th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
David - You are a vision in orange!!!
This is hillarious … great video 
May 12th, 2008 at 4:54 pm
I always thought orange was not one of my best colors!!!
May 12th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
David,
you could share with us your most favorite books, that would be helpful..
May 12th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
I know many people, myself included, who “want it all” and are not willing to settle any longer. That’s when the real “work” begins. Seeing all the junk you can live without is also accompanied by really getting to know oneself…
May 12th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Hey All
Long time no speak.
David that was an awesome podcast in everyway.
You are the man when it comes to really telling us what we are all about. Life is about being rich in all ways.
I can not begin to tell you how many times I have chased dreams.
Thanks and where is Taleda?
May 12th, 2008 at 11:06 pm
Hey All
David.
Please come to Boston the last few podcasts have made me so hot for you!!!
I can show you how rich you could be with my body on yours. I broke up with my boyfriend and I want some fun hot sex.
David you are my number one choice. Khiem you are kinda cute, i am not much into asian men but there is something about you that makes me tingle!
May 12th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
Slava
I just read a great book.
The Last Lecture.
That book will really impact you!!!
Look it up on Amazon.
I also liked Tuesdays with Morrie and the Celestine Prophecy.
The Alchemist is really good.
I like books with messages that are easy to digest as well as fun to read.
I also read Radical Honesty which was a but dry but had some great messages.
May 13th, 2008 at 8:41 am
Great fan of Nicholson and pretty familiar with Freeman .. About living with passion and living your dreams despite what everyone alse around you is saying a great movie is .. “Into the Wild”. Based on true events, that’s why it’s so precious .. It motivates me, cause right now i’m kind of been putten down by my friends after I started my journey on self-impro.. It’s like they think I’m cheating them on all the fun stuff that we did before and now that I’m a diffrent person (more socially aware, plaffull, altogether fun) it’s like it pisses them off.. I told them I’m changing and that is the path that I chose for myself for the rest of my life .. either they accept it or like N;sync says “Bye bye bye”
Have you guys had similiar experiences ? I was warned by “gurus” that it will happen .. people don;t like change, especially if they have no control over it .. You think losing the past and looking towards the future is the only way you wont be holden back ?
May 13th, 2008 at 10:48 am
Przemek,
Yes with growth your priorities will change, and with that there will be shifts in your interactions with others. What that entails depends on where you are and where you’re headed.
You mention gurus; they teach their solution, and generally expect it followed at the exclusion of other approaches & outlooks. This isn’t bad, immersion can be a fast & efficient way of learning something.
Are you rejecting your old ways in exchange for something new, or are you building on them in new directions?
Personally I’m at a place where I take a more holistic approach, looking at various teachings and figuring out how they fit together for me. In the “narrow” area of dating for example, David’s framework is the most sophisticated I’ve come across. But while I’ll agree with much of David’s criticism of the PUA community, I find that I’m also reading some of their materials. While my goals & interests are not in alignment with the typical PUA, there are still some valuable nuggets buried in there. (And seeing the contrast, of what I’m not about, helps speed my learning too.) David learned many skills, that he now takes for granted, in his “wild 20’s”; I wasn’t like that in my 20’s.
I love how this site has men and women playing and learning together. (I’m still not clear what the women learn from David’s teachings.)
You may find that as you grow, you’re still doing the same old things with your friends, but for very different reasons… (I believe that growth is ongoing.)
May 13th, 2008 at 11:00 am
Well as I live and breathe … Dr. Bob, you have returned!! We have not seen your long-lost love Taleda in recent days - but perhaps your return will inspire her to reappear in the comments soon!
May 13th, 2008 at 11:54 am
Ken
Very true great nuggets can be learned from many people!!
May 13th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Which leads me to correct myself. In stead of saying “what I’m not”, I should say “aspects I express differently”.
May 13th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Ken: “Are you rejecting your old ways in exchange for something new, or are you building on them in new directions? ”
I’m changing myself but not forgetting who I;ve been .. It;s a huge part of me and always will be and it brought me where 95% of population will never be .. acknowledging that there are tons of amazing stuff out there to learn and i wanna stick my finger in all of them
Dating was the thing that got me started on improving .. I literally “dag” thru various materials of gurus, as you said Ken, and everyone had something to offer. Yet none of them was congruent with me .. Learning routines, being a monkey etc. it didn’t work for me from the begining .. Instead i was digging, and digging, and digging and it took me some time till i dug here .. I think that what your teaching David is the BEST method for getting to KNOW women .. It’s solid with who I am because I’m more social every day, talking to everyone, in the shop, in the gym, at a party. It just FEELS great when you are comfortable with yourself and ou can make everyone else FEEL the same way. But it is also due to some other guys, like Hypnotica who is great with inner game that I think is really important and lots and lots other guys.
I think it’s like my friend said: The diffrence beetween a smart and a stupid person is as follows .. Stupid person tries to CONVIENCE you to his ideas, if he does he feels satisfied, if not he feels sorry for you cause HIS truth is the ONLY truth for him and feels your depriving yourself of it .. Smart person listens to everyone and takes what feels good and congruent with him knowing that his way of thinking is BEST but ONLY for him.
Peace, P.
May 13th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
P,
They may not be stupid, cognitively challenged or ignorant; they may be at a different stage of development.
They probably also have a different motivational profile; check out one of the books by Steven Reiss, on the Reiss Motivational Profile, “The normal personality” is one of his books.
A good book on stages of (values) development is “The never ending quest”, by Clare Graves.
You used the terms smart and stupid to make a point, but this use creates a frame that will make it more difficult to appreciate different people.
It’s amazing all the entryways into self improvement. I’ve been exploring from other angles for several years now. I first learned about this “dating stuff” a few months ago when someone pointed to “double your dating” as a marketing example for something totally unrelated.
May 15th, 2008 at 7:08 am
David,
thank you for sharing these book, I find them interesting. Have a great day!!
May 15th, 2008 at 7:08 am
David,
thank you for sharing these books, I find them interesting. Have a great day!!